5 Things You Didn't Know About Your Wedding Morning (Bonus Episode)

How well-prepared are you for your big day? We're inviting you to kick back and listen in as Renee Dalo and I divulge the unspoken truths and strategies for a smooth wedding morning. We'll guide you through setting boundaries, preserving your peace, and keeping everyone on the same schedule with digital itineraries. We also stress the importance of nourishment and hydration, so you're not running on empty when it's time to walk down the aisle. 

But our conversation doesn't end at just wedding mornings. We'd love to hear your thoughts and experiences too! Leave us a review or give us a shoutout on your social media. And if you have burning wedding-related questions, don’t hesitate to reach out to us. Who knows? You might just be the star guest on our next episode. Get ready to laugh, learn, and love this journey. Let's conquer your wedding morning together, no stress attached.

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Kelly knows how incredible a well planned wedding can be. Every moment counts and every decision plays a part. Wedding planning should be fun and as easy to do as possible. Besides planning weddings, Kelly travels the globe as an industry speaker. Kelly is a Martha Stewart Top Wedding Planner & this podcast won Brides magazine and WeddingWire's best podcast.

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Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:10

Hello and welcome to this Versus that making wedding decisions with Kelly McWilliams. This podcast is for you if you're making a wedding decision and want to know what to consider before saying I do to all the things that will make your wedding experience a great one. I'm your host, kelly McWilliams, and I'm so glad to be a part of your wedding planning journey. In each episode you can count on me and my expert wedding co-hosts to give you everything it takes to make the best decisions for the wedding that you're dreaming of. Guess what we're live like with video. I never thought that I would do this with the podcast, but I was like you know what? It might be really cool. So we're doing a whole new series. I just realized I forgot to turn my cell phone off there. We're going to do the short series, maybe five or 10 episodes that are under 10 minutes each. So I'm excited about that and I figured the best person to bring on for this is Renee Dallow, because she has a background in acting, so I thought she might be good to be on video. But really, when you think about it, she's just good. All things weddings. She was on the podcast before You've heard her. I think we might have talked about late night getaways from your wedding on her episode.

Speaker 1: 1:36

Anyway, she's a multi-passionate entrepreneur. Some of the hats she wears are wedding and event planner, wedding industry educator, life and business coach, a podcast host, a public speaker. Her podcast gets thousands of listens every single week. Her podcast is Talk with Renee Dallow. It is for people in the wedding industry, not necessarily people who are getting married. So if you tune into that, you're going to get a very different kind of listen.

Speaker 1: 2:10

But I'm excited to have her on with me for this very first episode, and I don't even know if this is called like a video blog or video cast. I don't know what we're going to call it, we're just going to try it out. I'm excited for her to be on to talk about things you don't know about your wedding morning and let me tell you the things that came out of our mouth that quickly, in under 10 minutes. You know what. I'm going to stop wasting time and get right into it. Here we go. Let's invite Renee on. Renee, thanks so much for doing this very first video podcast episode. Is that a different name? When you call it a video, it's like a video cast.

Speaker 2: 2:53

Is it A video? I'm just honored that I get to be the first and we figured out together.

Speaker 1: 2:59

Yes, and I figured two people who wear red lipstick should be the first.

Speaker 2: 3:04

Is it a rule for this video cast that everyone wears a red list? Oh, that would be such a good idea. They have to wear red lipstick. Come on in, otherwise you're out.

Speaker 1: 3:13

You're out Red lip club only. Maybe you should be the red lipstick series.

Speaker 2: 3:19

That's what we tell the real, the real true, okay.

Speaker 1: 3:24

So this is going to be a very quick episode, guys, and so we are going to tell you. We're saying we're gonna tell you five things you don't know about your wedding morning, but it will likely be 10, because Renee and I can talk forever, but we're gonna get it done in less than 10 minutes. Yeah, let's go. Yes.

Speaker 2: 3:42

Okay, you go ahead and shoot one off. Number one you have to protect your peace on the morning of your wedding. You think that everyone else has your best interests, but they really just wanna spend as much time with you as possible. If you are someone who does not want that, you have to say it early and often you have to schedule time for the people in your life that you love to join you in that morning and be firm in that boundary, like I will see you all at 10 am, not a moment before, which sounds harsh, but the morning of the wedding you're gonna love yourself Like you're gonna love past. You who thought about this?

Speaker 1: 4:13

Fully agree with you For me. Someone will be late and someone will likely be lost, so the best thing that you can do is send out texts like full itinerary saying this is what time I need you to be there, just like when I said not before, not after. This is what time we need you showing up at the door, walking in the door and here's exactly where you need to go to and here's exactly how to get there Text not just on the paper. Don't send any email, even if you can do a graphic. I love digital itineraries to get to everyone on your wedding party. This goes for anyone who is getting ready with you or anyone who's getting ready with your significant other.

Speaker 2: 5:01

Yeah, yeah. And I also plus one this and say even better if it comes from your maid of honor, so that they have her email. I'm here phone as a point of contact and not yours, if you are the bride.

Speaker 1: 5:11

Such a good tip, love that. Okay, what you got next.

Speaker 2: 5:17

I have a note for the boys. If there is a boy involved, if there is a groom, I find a lot of my clients, the guys seem to think that their wedding morning plans are going to suddenly materialize, or like we will figure out, or like we'll just get breakfast. That's what they say to me. Well, we'll just get breakfast, okay. Well, where, at what time, with who, who was invited? What time will it end? Guys can be a little too casual about the morning and then it gets away from them and then sometimes they're late or at late, or their partner is like where are they? Make a significant plan, even if the plan is we're gonna go downstairs to the restaurant at the hotel. Just make a plan, make a choice.

Speaker 1: 5:55

Yes, fully agree with you on that, and make sure everyone is in on that plan. Again, digital attendee areas go a long way. Yes, you're gonna get asked a million questions on your wedding morning and at some point you are gonna be so over it. So, like Renee said, highly suggest that you have someone assigned to be the answerer of all things. Like maybe turn your phone off and say my phone won't even be on that day If you have a question, here's who you go to. Yep, boundaries, boundaries, boundaries. Love the boundary, I love it, what about?

Speaker 1: 6:33

from you Next.

Speaker 2: 6:36

I'm really a big fan of still gonna go with like. You are the same person you are on your wedding day that you are every other day. And I mean right, if you are someone who wakes up and does yoga, guess what? On your wedding day, you should wake up and do yoga. If you wake up and have to immediately have a cup of coffee, do it. You are not a different person. You have to orchestrate your day, design your day in a way that's going to make you your best self. It's not a day for, like, a whole new plan, right. It's not a day to suddenly try a new hobby. No, you need to do what you always do. If you need to take the dog for a walk, do it Like there is no perfect wedding day itinerary. There's only what's right for you.

Speaker 1: 7:17

Yeah, and setting yourself up for that and not throwing things off from the get go is the way to go. Now, obviously, you may not always be getting up at that time, but anything you can do to set yourself up for success, which is going to lead me to my next thing I think you're going to bring this up as well Y'all you need to plan to hydrate and eat Hydrate.

Speaker 2: 7:43

Listen, there is not enough makeup in the world to cover up your dehydrated ashy skin. It is that you have to drink.

Speaker 1: 7:50

You have to drink water, a lot of water, and you need to start the day before or two days before because, especially if you're having welcome parties, rehearsal dinners, pre-wedding parties, where you're putting in all the alcohol, you need to flush it out. So start in advance with the hydration.

Speaker 2: 8:09

And here's a fun tip that I learned when I was an actor when your body registers thirst, like if you have the thought, oh, I'm thirsty, you're already dehydrated. Oh yeah, because your brain is like trying to take care of you. That's okay.

Speaker 1: 8:24

That's real.

Speaker 1: 8:25

To start well in advance, meaning that drink a little bit more, you know, and again, you're probably going to be having some alcohol intake throughout the day and it's just going to dissipate as the day goes on.

Speaker 1: 8:37

So, yeah, and if you need to have someone responsible for making sure that you're hydrating throughout the day, that would be a good way to go. Timing, two things are going to happen You're not going to have enough time and you're also going to have too much time, and what I mean by that is not enough time is. There's going to be times during the day where you're going to feel really rushed, where, like, it seems like you can't get everyone in and out of hair and makeup chairs, or you have to be into your dress and the photographer is waiting and the videographer wants you to read the letter and you know you have to. You have to get on the limo, get in the limo and get to the church or wherever you're going, and this is going to seem like a big rush. At the same time, there is so much freaking hurry up and wait on wedding morning, wouldn't you?

Speaker 2: 9:32

agree, oh yeah, Especially because for most brides who are doing beauty with their people, you're not scheduled until midstream. So people are so like your. Your makeup artist is getting there at like I don't know 7AM and your first bridesmaid will arrive at 7, at 7 for that, or 7.15, and you're not getting your makeup done until noon. That's real.

Speaker 1: 9:54

That's real and you're like you're. Hopefully, you're surrounded by people that you love and enjoy, who make you feel good, but some parts of the day you're just going to feel like I over patted this. I should be doing something.

Speaker 1: 10:07

No, you can just like chill and soak it all up, yeah, so this is a time for you, if something makes you feel good. You know, when you have moments like that, like writing, or you know going for a walk, or just taking a breather, having another cup of coffee, mimosa, you know like you said, putting your little earbuds, do a little listen to a little podcast, whatever you need to like settle your nervous system a bit, yeah. Or maybe you need to have a dance party in the middle of the night.

Speaker 1: 10:35

I'm all for that.

Speaker 2: 10:36

I love that too, and that's another thing, renee.

Speaker 1: 10:39

Some people think that they're going to have like a relaxed state in a relaxed state and just want to be like, oh, I'm going to set myself for like a spa day, like I want to be quiet. And then they get in there and they're like I wish I had some like hip hop going right now. I want to have a dance party, so maybe playing for both, like candles ready and like the steamers, and then also have awesome, maybe a couple different playlists ready to roll.

Speaker 2: 11:07

Yeah, I agree, I'm really nimble with that. Yeah, like with your emotions too, like checking in, like how am I feeling now? Like how is my belly feeling, how is my chest feeling, how is my head, how's my heart? Because, like you might just be, I liken it to like bees buzzing under your skin, that kind of nervous, like fluttery energy, and you don't know what to do and you might need to try a couple things. You might need to do the dance party and then go sit quietly, or vice versa, like you have to just be ready to soothe yourself, right?

Speaker 2: 11:35

Yes, for lack of a better term whenever you can. And I'll also add plus onto this you know that morning vibe of like everyone getting ready. Some people love it and sometimes for my clients, especially if there's like parents and in-laws involved in that getting ready portion, sometimes we just say you're going to arrive 10 minutes before your scheduled hair and makeup time and not a minute earlier, to sort of minimize who is in the space at any given moment. It makes for a much more a vibey, chill wedding morning if you do it that way.

Speaker 1: 12:06

Renee, look what we did. We did in under 10 minutes. I mean, I feel like that's a really like we got some good stuff out there.

Speaker 2: 12:14

Like take that everyone who follows this episode Can you do it. Can you do it? Can you beat 937? Don't think so.

Speaker 1: 12:20

I don't know, and I don't know if they're going to wear red lipstick as well as we do either.

Speaker 2: 12:25

Listen, this was a groundbreaking episode. Obviously you did it.

Speaker 1: 12:29

All right, thanks so much. These are great tips and hopefully we'll have you back on for another one. Thank you, bye Renee. I'm so glad to be able to share my wedding experiences and expertise with you, and that my co-hosts are so giving it theirs. We truly do want you to have the best time at your wedding, and our hope is that this podcast is helping you to make your engagement time while planning your wedding that much easier.

Speaker 1: 12:55

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